The idea that being honest could brighten a dark space was inspired by James Altucher, a guy whose last name I cannot pronounce. James writes a brutally honest blog that has likely cost him some (probably not so good) friends but has won him countless, devoted followers. I wanted to be that bold, that straight, and now that I think about it, this is probably the best solution to dealing with people who don’t shut up.
Studies conducted by psychologist Paul Ekman reveal the average person lies about 3 times per 10 minutes of conversation. That’s a lot of fibbing. You may believe this stat doesn’t apply to you but that could very well be lie number 132 today. We lie about all kinds of little things like when we tell someone how much we love the itchy pair of handmade socks they made us for Labour Day or pretending you know someone whose name you can’t remember. Little white lies erode our sense of self.
A good place to start with this honesty business is by examining the lies we tell ourselves.
There is no need to be cruel or brutal to be honest with ourselves and others but it isn’t easy at first. It requires risk and the creation of a new habit at the same time. I suggest, for just one day, be honest whenever you think of it. Notice the way an untruth feels in your body. Do you feel it in your chest, your stomach or your jaw? Take a breath, notice the way you really feel and speak to that raw feeling instead of the automatic impulse to cover up the truth.
If I were to be completely up front right now I’m worried this post is bland and uninspiring. I’m afraid to to hit the little blue “Publish Post” button. I’ll squint and hit it with one finger on the trackpad…